8 POSITIVE PARENTING TIPS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD
We all know that looking after children can be challenging at times, but with the right approach, you can interact and engage with children in a more positive way, allowing you to maximise the magical moments and get the best out of your relationships, both now and in the future.
This week’s blog focuses on some key areas that can make a huge difference to your child’s behaviour and help you to overcome some of the challenges we all face as parents and carers:
When children are talking to you, it is important to show them that you are actively listening to what they have to say. It is crucial that children feel confident coming to you to share all of their ups and downs as this aspect of your relationship is a crucial part of keeping them safe and secure.
PRAISE POSITIVE BEHAVIOUR
Praising positive behaviour boosts children’s confidence and makes them feel good, so it is important to notice, highlight and praise the sort of behaviours you wish to encourage as much as possible. Your positive input should make them want to continue to behave well, in order to receive more of that wonderful approval and praise!
SET THE LIMITS WITH CLEAR BOUNDARIES
Make sure you are clear about the boundaries you set for the children in your care, and then clearly and consistently communicate those rules, in order to steer their development and protect them from harm.
Children will always complain about the boundaries you put in place, but they are a crucial part of any child’s development and will help them to make positive choices in life.
KEEP BOREDOM AT BAY
Being too busy and leaving children to their own devices can have disastrous results, especially with children who are more prone to destructive behaviour when bored. Those images of children covered from head to foot in paint, televisions and furniture covered in Sudocrem and horrendous DIY haircuts all have one thing in common; a child who got bored!
Keep them busy with activities to engage and stimulate their minds and you will avoid this kind of bad behaviour altogether.
REWARD vs. BRIBE
There is a distinct difference between rewarding a child for excellent behaviour or marking an achievement and bribing a child to behave well. Blur these lines and you are banking major headaches for later on.
Parental bribery simply teaches a child that they must act up in a certain way to get what they want. This sort of pattern is incredibly unhealthy and can take a long time to unravel and put right.
LEAD BY EXAMPLE
You have a responsibility to set a great example to your children, as they will model their own behaviour on the adults around them. The behaviours a child will mimic having paid close attention to the way you talk and behave, will often be mirrored back at you, therefore it is crucial to bear in mind that those little eyes and ears are taking it all in!
KEEP YOUR HEAD
Once feelings of anger or frustration have set in, it becomes incredibly difficult to communicate or discipline your child in a rational way. Take a huge step back and make sure you are calm and clearheaded before discussing poor behaviour or disciplining a child. Act in anger and you will often have regrets about what you said or did once you have regained your composure.
Drink a cup of tea, listen to your favourite feel good song on your iPod or count to 100, in short take some time out before you deal with the situation in hand.
WEAR YOUR HEART ON YOUR SLEEVE
If you are able to express your emotions openly and demonstrate to the children under your care that they are loved through the way you play with them, protect them and share your time with them, they are sure to feel loved.
When a child’s emotional needs are catered for, with all of the kindness and care they need to grow into happy and healthy young adults, you will enjoy a strong relationship and feel eternally proud of your positive contribution to their growth and development.